Today marks 5 years of being with my husband. It seems longer, in my opinion. I was a single mother of a 14 month old little girl when I got a message from Nick on Twitter. I didn’t think much of it, I didn’t really acknowledge his message the first time. I gave the guy my # thinking “whatever” he would probably just be someone I text messaged from time to time. I never thought after meeting him for the first time would this be the man I would marry. I honestly had gone through such a toxic relationship in my past, that marriage was not even close to being on my radar. After dating for a year, he asked me to marry him in Ozzy Osbournes backyard on New Years Eve 2011/12.

We got married in November 2012. When I reflect on my relationship with Nick, I think about how it’s real. We didn’t married for the wrong reasons. We waited until a few weeks before we got married to live together, which for me was great. I wasn’t looking to move him in right away. I wanted what was best for me and my child, and he respected that 100%. Which brings me to respect, he respects me. He’s respected me from the moment I met him. For Nick his respect for me has been challenging for him when it comes to the co-parenting aspect. I’ve always been open about my situation and respectful of my situation when it comes to ca-parenting. It’s driven a divide at times between us bc he’s watched me get walked all over. It’s something he can’t control, I can’t control, and not even my daughter can control. His respect for me and my daughter is fierce and I am grateful for that. He is loyal to me. Loyalty for me was something I knew little to nothing about when it came to relationships. I can trust him 100%. Something else I wasn’t familiar with. My past relationship was every opposite of what Nick and I have. Trust does not come easy to someone who’s experienced nothing but lies and abandonment in her life. He proved me wrong about everything I thought I “knew”. That kind of man is rare, I know he’s rare, and I wish I did a better job of expressing how important he is to me. When someone comes into your life, that can turn bad into good, HANG onto that, don’t try and find reasons why it won’t work, bc so far 5 years later it works.

He gave me 2 more children, that brought even more meaning and light into my life. My husband is a hard worker, he’s a straight up workaholic, but he does it for US. He can be selfish as we all can be, but he is selfless in his heart. I can tell you he has never gone ONE day without telling me that he Loves me, and thanks me for being ME. Let me tell you, having affection and words of endearment were foreign languages to me. I still can’t hug people without doing it against my will to live bc it’s just how I was raised. Nick has been patient with my character flaws, and encourages me daily to show affection when he knows how hard it is for me. He’s a good father, but he’s not that MR MOM kinda dad, and that’s okay. Nick is my perfect. He is not the best at everything, nor am I. What he is the best at is all of what I need for my security and my children’s security in life. He drives me crazy with his meticulous personality, but for my constant cluster fuck of a personality we fit together well. He’s a Virgo, need I say more?  The past 5 years have been a constant learning experience, we are human we have disagreements, we don’t see eye to eye on many things, but we compromise and communicate everyday. We have become so comfortable with one another that we don’t hesitate to tell each other how we feel about things. <— this can be uber annoying but at the same time we both take the criticism and work at being better for one another and our families. 3I know I have found my match in life. Regardless of what real life throws at us, and the negative people who like to feed of our personal business, our love is strong. Thank you Nick for choosing me. We love you. I look forward to what the future holds for our family. That booty though! <3